However, what’s actually going on underneath the pop-style commentary and tabloid tales of ‘cougars’ and their ‘cubs’?In search of clarity, we set out on a mission to look beyond the loaded monikers and dubious hype surrounding older woman/younger man relationships.She is drawn to you for the same reason so many men chase younger women: she is attracted by your youthful enthusiasm. If you are just a boy toy she turns to for sex, she will get bored with you quickly.She loves your appetite for life and is intoxicated by your ambition and the fact that so much of your life is ahead of you. If you have goals and tell her about them, it will definitely turn her on.Dating someone younger—whether you’re two or three years his senior or are talking cougar territory—certainly can work (look at Eva Longoria and her 4-years younger beau), but being an “older woman” in a relationship does tend to come with certain perks and downfalls.
As my significant other was scoffing at my insistence that it’s tough for women to find good men once they’re over age 45 much less 50, I reminded him that I possess plenty of experience in matters of Second Life Socializing.
Make no mistake — older women are looking for men, not boys. Nothing is more attractive to her than a young guy who can fill her needs as a man and in the sack. Part of the turn-on of an older woman is her intellect and accomplishments.
But you’re in luck — she’s going to be attracted to you before you even open your mouth. It’s going to end eventually, so don’t talk about a relationship with her. Don’t talk about your feelings and emotions and how you’re falling for her unless she does it first. She’s looking to enjoy herself because most of the men in her age range are not in the physical shape she desires and are already broken and destroyed. In order to succeed, she probably had to be smarter than the men around her.
A longer span of time before he’s reaching for the Viagra.
Sure, you’ll have dinner dates, but also be ready for, say, a 10-mile hike one weekend followed by an indie rock concert the next.