I can't even begin to count the number of times I've dropped the "b-bomb" and the girl I've been talking to has suddenly needed the toilet and then a few minutes later been seen chatting someone else up on the other side of the room. Woody Allen has a lot to answer for with his "doubles your chances on a Saturday night" comment. I've loved women deeply and to suggest that me seeing a woman on the side when I'm with a man "doesn't count" is to completely devalue and dismiss that love. A lot of lesbians are terrified of dating bi girls in case they "run off" with a man. Contrary to popular belief, we don't fancy the entire population, any more than straight girls fancy every single bloke. It's kinda cute when you still do a little double-take. Bisexuality is not a comfy little alcove for people to rest in while they gather courage to come out as gay, or just a way to impress guys at parties. Not every bisexual has had sexual contact with more than one gender. Perhaps they've felt shy, or picky, or the opportunity has simply never arisen. The bi community is full of genderfluid, trans and other gender-non-conforming individuals, as well as solid friends and allies of those people. Date a bi girl and you might find yourself learning a lot more about gender beyond the binary world of "he" and "she". We'll love you even more if you come and march with us.
When I finally told him the truth, answering his oft-asked inquiries about my infidelity with a final, fateful yes, we remained locked in a toxic back-and-forth, shouting insults at each other for a month.
We weren't just waiting for you to come along and help us make up our minds. Please don't go down the pub and tell your mates you've "turned" a lesbian. As a bi woman, being in a same-sex couple doesn't make us a lesbian, any more than being in an opposite-sex couple makes us straight.
We're not going to be defined by our relationship with you.
Because lesbians think she's not gay enough and straight people think she's this overly sexualized tramp who will sleep with anyone.
Even though the B in LGBT is there, it often feels like it's not, so being supportive of her occasionally feeling isolated goes a long way.12.