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Truth be told, it’s hard for them to turn this off.

That coupled with the stress and exhaustion that comes with Army life can make it hard for him to spend lots of time planning things for the two of you to do together.

Curious as to what I was in for, and wanting some solid guidance, I went looking for advice on how to be a good Army girlfriend. However, in my own time as an Army girlfriend, I’ve come upon a few revelations of my own. Dating a soldier is a commitment, and not one to be taken lightly. Above all, talk to people who’ve lived it and ask them to be honest. If you’re not ready for to be an Army girlfriend and all that it entails, break it off. As soon as my guy used the g-word, I hit the keyboard and called my sister-in-law (retired Army wife extraordinaire). Soldiers work long hours that they have absolutely no control over. If you’re one of those girls who always needs a guy on her arm, get used to disappointment. You’ll have time for your friends, family, hobbies and work. And odds are, one of the reasons his time with you means so much to him is because it’s one of the few times he can get away from that life. My boyfriend and I have plenty to talk about, from video games to the funny cashier at the grocery store, and I never bring up the Army to any extent greater than asking him how his day went. If your man is ready to introduce you to the guys in his unit and/or regiment, it’s a big step.

What follows is some humble advice on how to cope with being the significant other of soldier. If you and your soldier are ready to enter a relationship, make sure you know exactly what you’re getting into. Both gave me a wealth of knowledge I otherwise would not have had. The time he has for you will be dictated by someone else entirely. Concentrate on these, and appreciate the time he’s allowed to have with you. And when he does let me in on the other things, I try to listen and not pry. Men who are stationed together are often closer than brothers. Don’t cling to your man like a backpack, and don’t emasculate him in front of his guys.

I’ve never known or been in relationship with a military guy, so this was all new. I endured much of his stress during this time, they actually have a name for it ‘vicarious trauma’ and found it to have effected me greatly about the time he was ready to come home. for awhile there I thought maybe it would patch up. I want to cut it off but feel guilty because he’s a vet.. You’re trying to create not only a relationship out of not much, but he has shown you what he is prepared to give you and you’re asking for more from the man that doesn’t want to give.

So our relationship became long distance as he was in another state preparing to go to war. Your needs aren’t getting met and you hate how he treats you.

Then they look at me with something akin to, I laugh.) Charlie and I would like to get married one day. We both know that the military will likely screw us over (it's the military; that's what it does) and there may be heartbreak in the future.

In the Spring of ’08, he joined the Army and went off to Ft Knox for basic training soon after. Everyone thought I was crazy for committing to someone who would be stationed halfway across the country, but he and I knew it was right. Sure, there are days that I’d rather not get out of bed, when I’m lonely and all I want to do is cry.Amy asks “I fell in love with a wonderful, a younger man (yea for me) and then, he was called to active duty. I may as well have been a wet towel or his mother, the way he treated me. I was told later that this is ‘normal’ for soldiers, and because reintegrating is hard. just knowing I’m there as I was throughout the war.

In the Spring of ’08, he joined the Army and went off to Ft Knox for basic training soon after. Everyone thought I was crazy for committing to someone who would be stationed halfway across the country, but he and I knew it was right. Sure, there are days that I’d rather not get out of bed, when I’m lonely and all I want to do is cry.

Amy asks “I fell in love with a wonderful, a younger man (yea for me) and then, he was called to active duty. I may as well have been a wet towel or his mother, the way he treated me. I was told later that this is ‘normal’ for soldiers, and because reintegrating is hard. just knowing I’m there as I was throughout the war. $1,000 of care packages and plane tickets and prayers later, I KNOW I did, and he will tell you that too. Only a woman who believes that a guy won’t appreciate what she is, will focus her efforts elsewhere.

The thought of also knowing someone not only military but going to war was beyond my comprehension. it’s tough to wait for someone for 15 months, and to hear of bombs, friends dying etc in his letters. At this point, when he came home last December, he was not a well puppy, though he would like us to think different. He came home – both of us anticipating seeing each other – but then completely let down by experience. but I couldn’t find a balance between what was love and what was him needing someone there.. I know he feels a bond with me as many war vets do with those who helped them stay alive, and that I did, I know I did. But my needs are not getting met and I hate how he treats me now. You are trying to fix, heal, buy, help…so many things with this guy.

The day he left was so hard for me, and him as well. I’m 20 years old, and I’m the very proud girlfriend of a U. I was sitting in the den, watching everyone play video games while my soldier was on his computer listening to music next to me. I looked over at him, and we both broke out singing.

He was infantry and trained a lot but he made time to call me every night when he wasn’t in the field. We remained in love and missed each other very much. We are very excited, and interested to literally walk in each others shoes. January 11 2010 will be our five year anniversary and after everything I wouldn’t change a thing. As cliche as it sounds, it was then that we fell in love with each other.

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In the Spring of ’08, he joined the Army and went off to Ft Knox for basic training soon after. Everyone thought I was crazy for committing to someone who would be stationed halfway across the country, but he and I knew it was right. Sure, there are days that I’d rather not get out of bed, when I’m lonely and all I want to do is cry.Amy asks “I fell in love with a wonderful, a younger man (yea for me) and then, he was called to active duty. I may as well have been a wet towel or his mother, the way he treated me. I was told later that this is ‘normal’ for soldiers, and because reintegrating is hard. just knowing I’m there as I was throughout the war. $1,000 of care packages and plane tickets and prayers later, I KNOW I did, and he will tell you that too. Only a woman who believes that a guy won’t appreciate what she is, will focus her efforts elsewhere. The thought of also knowing someone not only military but going to war was beyond my comprehension. it’s tough to wait for someone for 15 months, and to hear of bombs, friends dying etc in his letters. At this point, when he came home last December, he was not a well puppy, though he would like us to think different. He came home – both of us anticipating seeing each other – but then completely let down by experience. but I couldn’t find a balance between what was love and what was him needing someone there.. I know he feels a bond with me as many war vets do with those who helped them stay alive, and that I did, I know I did. But my needs are not getting met and I hate how he treats me now. You are trying to fix, heal, buy, help…so many things with this guy.The day he left was so hard for me, and him as well. I’m 20 years old, and I’m the very proud girlfriend of a U. I was sitting in the den, watching everyone play video games while my soldier was on his computer listening to music next to me. I looked over at him, and we both broke out singing.He was infantry and trained a lot but he made time to call me every night when he wasn’t in the field. We remained in love and missed each other very much. We are very excited, and interested to literally walk in each others shoes. January 11 2010 will be our five year anniversary and after everything I wouldn’t change a thing. As cliche as it sounds, it was then that we fell in love with each other.(That's why both of us : we've had to deal with too many broken promises before that we realize they're absolutely useless things.) Now, I realize that this is a very long, list-heavy rant.I felt like it was the only way to get my point across. " There's a whole lot of crap to shovel through before you get to the romantic part of the military, though (actually, if there's a romantic side to it, I have yet to see it).(For those of you who are unfamiliar with military terms, that means Charlie's three ranks ahead of most new-enlistees, because he's in the band.) He's been wanting this for seventeen years (he's nineteen), and I knew this day was coming soon. I'll spend that day in my dorm room, eating a pint of chocolate ice cream and binge-watching Sure, there are some who do a four-year tour of duty, then leave to go on to civilian life, but for most people it's a life-long job. There are a lot of people who smile and thank Charlie for what he's doing for his country.Here's what you've got to know before getting into a relationship with a member of the U. Military: I lived with the military for the first thirteen years of my life. (Although when he goes out in his kilt, they congratulate him for being so brave to wear it in public. I picked it up but he wasn’t here, he’d already hung up. His mind is preoccupied with his life, and in some respects, I can understand this. This relationship doesn’t have strong enough foundations to survive what he is doing and it certainly had no basis for long distance. He is not emotionally available and he doesn’t want a relationship.

,000 of care packages and plane tickets and prayers later, I KNOW I did, and he will tell you that too. Only a woman who believes that a guy won’t appreciate what she is, will focus her efforts elsewhere. The thought of also knowing someone not only military but going to war was beyond my comprehension. it’s tough to wait for someone for 15 months, and to hear of bombs, friends dying etc in his letters. At this point, when he came home last December, he was not a well puppy, though he would like us to think different. He came home – both of us anticipating seeing each other – but then completely let down by experience. but I couldn’t find a balance between what was love and what was him needing someone there.. I know he feels a bond with me as many war vets do with those who helped them stay alive, and that I did, I know I did. But my needs are not getting met and I hate how he treats me now. You are trying to fix, heal, buy, help…so many things with this guy.The day he left was so hard for me, and him as well. I’m 20 years old, and I’m the very proud girlfriend of a U. I was sitting in the den, watching everyone play video games while my soldier was on his computer listening to music next to me. I looked over at him, and we both broke out singing.He was infantry and trained a lot but he made time to call me every night when he wasn’t in the field. We remained in love and missed each other very much. We are very excited, and interested to literally walk in each others shoes. January 11 2010 will be our five year anniversary and after everything I wouldn’t change a thing. As cliche as it sounds, it was then that we fell in love with each other.(That's why both of us : we've had to deal with too many broken promises before that we realize they're absolutely useless things.) Now, I realize that this is a very long, list-heavy rant.I felt like it was the only way to get my point across. " There's a whole lot of crap to shovel through before you get to the romantic part of the military, though (actually, if there's a romantic side to it, I have yet to see it).(For those of you who are unfamiliar with military terms, that means Charlie's three ranks ahead of most new-enlistees, because he's in the band.) He's been wanting this for seventeen years (he's nineteen), and I knew this day was coming soon. I'll spend that day in my dorm room, eating a pint of chocolate ice cream and binge-watching Sure, there are some who do a four-year tour of duty, then leave to go on to civilian life, but for most people it's a life-long job. There are a lot of people who smile and thank Charlie for what he's doing for his country.Here's what you've got to know before getting into a relationship with a member of the U. Military: I lived with the military for the first thirteen years of my life. (Although when he goes out in his kilt, they congratulate him for being so brave to wear it in public. I picked it up but he wasn’t here, he’d already hung up. His mind is preoccupied with his life, and in some respects, I can understand this. This relationship doesn’t have strong enough foundations to survive what he is doing and it certainly had no basis for long distance. He is not emotionally available and he doesn’t want a relationship.

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