So this is where we start: one priest’s dating guide for Orthodox Christians.First, and this applies not only to dating, but to all friendships: Hang out with people you want to become like.We need to better equip teens to make good choices concerning sex and to be able to see through the multitude of sexual messages they receive on a daily basis.We want teens to see themselves as important, valuable and sacred, despite the messages they receive to the contrary, which tend to debase both males and females. I think there's little issue with the first, and probably with the 2nd. And the 4th is just right out unless you want to be unequally yoked to someone who may never have the same faith as you. Heck, even an Orthodox/Orthodox marriage if they can't be willing to use the same calendar (New vs. Will she be feasting when I'm fasting and vice versa? In my case, my wife had to change rite from Western to Eastern Catholic.
But there is one type of vacation we shouldn’t be taking this summer—and that is from Church.
Simply teaching teens that sex is bad is insufficient and tends to leave teens further confused as to why they are having the physical and psychological feelings and urges that come along with puberty and thereafter.
In fact this approach typically leads teens to feel that they themselves are bad for having these feelings and for being attracted to people of the opposite sex.
One of our goals ought to be to develop within the hearts and minds of teens that virginity is something very good, something to strive for until marriage, and something not to be embarrassed about possessing, but in fact an accomplishment to be proud of keeping.
We want them to remain virgin until marriage, not simply because they did what they were asked in not having sex, but that they valued themselves, the person they will marry, their relationship with God, and sex itself.