The idea in all of that was not to establish a level of emotional (or certainly physical) intimacy that would imply marriage (defrauding one another), and result in a emotional divorce if things don't work out.
Our goal in dating as Christians is to save marital levels of interaction for marriage itself; to care well for the other person's soul, to be different from the world and so to bring glory to God.
Generally speaking, it's not nice to defraud someone. Any attorney worth his salt would know how to do legal research.
In fact, fraud is illegal in many contexts and punishable by statute depending on the type of fraud and whether or not intent to defraud can be proven. I seriously don't believe dysfunctional Christians set out to trick anyone.
The Boundless version comes from the New International Version, noted for its gender inclusivity - which may be a source of confusion for what the Word ACTUALLY says.
I am not advocating arranged marriages; rather, I am pointing toward the biblical purpose for why young men and women associate with one another. It also recognizes the specific call that Ephesians gives men in marriage, where our main role is sacrificial service.
These passages do not argue that marriage should be the direct goal of such relationships so much as they assume it. We are to love our wives as Christ loved the church, giving himself up for her. Biblical courtship means that a man does not look for a laundry list of characteristics that comprise his fantasy woman so that his every desire can be fulfilled, but he looks for a godly woman as Scripture defines her — a woman he can love and, yes, be attracted to, but a woman whom he can serve and love as a godly husband.
I will provide a working definition of each, describe how the two methods are broadly different, and then recommend why one method is fundamentally more biblical than the other. Courtship ordinarily begins when a single man approaches a single woman by going through the woman's father and then conducts his relationship with the woman under the authority of her father, family or church, whichever is most appropriate. A man will court a particular woman because he believes it is possible that he could marry her, and the courtship is the process of discerning whether that belief is correct.
To the extent that the Bible addresses premarital relationships at all, it uses the language of men marrying and women being given in marriage (see Matthew ; Luke -35).