“In the ‘olden days’ it would not have been like this,” she told me.“Anyone you went out with would have some kind of existing connection, whether it was work, the pub, the gym, mutual friends, or family.You may even worry how their judgments of your date might reflect on you. Each of us know on some fundamental level that the input of close friends and family is important to us, and that’s why it can be so upsetting to have the disapproval of our chosen mate by those closest to us.If your close friends and family disapprove of your relationship, don’t fret.She dated when she was your age, after all, and understands what it’s like on your side of the coin. If your mom thinks he lacks ambition, he automatically becomes a no-good stoner layabout in her eyes (or in my mother’s, anyways). If his shoes match the rest of his outfit, he gets instant bonus points.
How to Make the “Meet the Family” Experience a Positive One Once you do decide to introduce your partner to your parents, just keep in mind that it’s going to be an anxious experience for both sides.
But each unique person’s perspective on your situation usually carries some truth in it, and therefore, everyone’s thoughts are important for you to know.
If you find that some of the statements about your date are true, it doesn’t mean you need to make an immediate decision to break it off with your partner or to distance yourself from your family or friends.
Instead, take some time to think about how the less positive qualities in your partner may impact your life and your expectations that you have about the kind of relationship you want.
Also keep in mind that those people who initially disapprove of your date may actually change their minds should your relationship with your date bloom into something more serious. What matters, though, is the truth, and more importantly, how you handle the truth. Being able to handle the truth empowers you to make good decisions When someone important to you doesn’t like the person you are dating, it creates self-doubt that can make you second-guess who you are and what you’re doing.